Petebowl
Hi
Two great books are
The Psychology of Winning by Dennis Waitley
Winning Ways by Jeffrey Hodge
I am going to take a punt on your problem. You say that you work heaps of hours in a bowling centre and you are still on L-plates as a bowler (sorry – rubbish). I have two ideas.
1.You have not learnt how to separate work (being at the bowl 8 days a week) from play (trying to be the best bowler you can be). Not an unusual problem. Think about this. So many marriages break down because the execs bring their work home. All work no play. The mind psyche gets use to only one thing – work. It can not tell the difference.
You have not worked out how to separate to two. When you do you will improve out of sight. It can be done and it is easy, takes about two weeks of practise, the mind forgives you and away you go. Interested?
2. I see tonnes of pressure on your shoulders. Answer me this – how many times a week do you have “a time out for yourself ONLY” and I mean for yourself ONLY. I bet the answer is NILL. A time out is for you and you alone, it is the greatest experience on the planet. I do not know what your personal responsibilities are in life, but a time out, even as small as 15 minutes is heaven. Have you ever sat at the bowl after the night shift, locked the front door, said night to the staff, turned out the lights to the security level, sat in the office, took the phone off the hook for 15 minutes and sat in the quiet and did nothing and tried to think of nothing? I bet you can’t. It is heaven beyond belief.
Interested in taking the pressure off your shoulders?
If you can not separate work from play your sporting ability is doomed, and as for your head being able to make good decisions (in a few seconds on the lanes), it is virtually impossible, because the minds psyche will remain in the same gear as you have “treated” it for the last few years. Riddle me this batman?
Confidence + energy + knowledge + no expectations on yourself = good decision making.
Answer this, if good decision making must equal 10, what is you self rating on confidence, energy, knowledge and expectation (sorry pressure). This is not easy, when you work out the numbers you will find something out. You only have three minutes from reading this. You must give your gut feeling, do not OVER THINK the answers, your first answer or impression will be the most accurate, Try not to change an answer. What did you find?
Riddle me another?
If bowling great and presumably winning is about; shot making, skill, luck, motivation, execution, equipment, the mental game and practice etc etc etc etc, where does “rest” fit in, where does ”time out” fit in. These two are the number one and two in this list, especially as we get older. Older starts at any age after 20. Thanks for your time I hope it helps.
GBS